Learning to Say No

Posted by Liz McCoy Friday, February 8, 2008
I was blog reading this morning and one of the organizational blogs I read had a snippet from a book, Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy.

Here is the snippet:
The October 11 entry in Simple Abundance has this story.
do know a wonderful woman who was very active in her children's school
for many years, largely because after she had volunteered a generous
amount of her personal time, no one else came forward to take her
place. The hours she put into her PTA related work were the equivalent
of a full-time but unpaid second job.

When she made the
terrible discovery that she had breast cancer, she admitted to close
friends that in a strange way, she was relieved. Cancer meant she could
start saying "No," create boundaries, and finally put down the school
committee burden without guilt. Now she could ransom back her life.
After all, no one expects a woman fighting breast cancer to do anything
but take care of herself.

Many of us can say we don't know how to say no in certain situations. I've been dealing with this lately and really being honest on the things I can/cannot handle. I've already reduced some of my responsibilities outside of my secular employment. I'm contemplating reducing other volunteer jobs soon also. Getting clear on what I want to accomplish with my self improvement projects will help me see what will fit within that and what responsibilities wont. Life is much to short to be over extended and do things you don't want to do.

Have you ever faced having to say no or saying yes when you really want to say no?

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