Well as you know for the last few months I've been working on improving myself in many categories of my life. I've mad progress in some areas but haven't gotten around to others. One of the things on my list to improve is friendships. Something I've been continually reminding myself of is to invest in people. Invest my time invest my abilities, invest what I can to help and support people which is being a good friend.
This morning I was catching up on the blogs I subscribe to and came across a posting from lifehack.org called: How to Break-Up With a Friend normally I read the titles at lifehack.org and know i want to go back and read them so i mark them as unread and star them to go back. Well the flow chart graphic they used really caught my interest and got me to read the whole article.
It was a pretty good article. I didn't really have any friends to break up with but what really spoke to me today was the answer to this sentence: "If you are someone who has realized that maybe you haven’t been the
best friend you should be, it’s never too late to make amends."
Well I'm not sure that I've alienated anyone yet but I do know that I do want to be come a better friend. The 3 points shared were:
Communication
I think I have definitely improved in this category. I more often initiate communication with my friends. I'm trying to move further away from mass email updates as my only communication and more personal emails, phone calls, and actual snail mail. I still need to improve my follow up with activity the next point
Activity
I am definitely aware that I need to work on this area. I've just now gotten to the point where going out with ds to the store or to play is possible. Before having to have all the milk and bottles, diapers clothes, etc. etc. etc. Was just too much so I'd wait until dh or my mom could come long with me. I'm also seeing more and more the importance of Mommy time. I'm looking forward to scheduling this in and I'll use this time to bond more with my friends.
Support
This point was interesting to think about. I've come to find that I don't have any close friends where I rely on them and they rely on me. I have my husband and family but beyond that there isn't anyone else. I recognize this as something I will have to be aware of once I get more friends.
Which leads me to one of my hearts desires for along time has been to get a close friend. I would say that I used to have close friends most in high school. Once I was engaged and eventually married alot of my single friends kind of drifted away because there was a level of disconnect we still had couple friends but soon after we had our baby we've drifted away from our couple friends too. You know how it goes your lifestyle changes and you look to relate to your friends who are in the same situation. Right now I don't have anyone close who has kids that used to be my friend. So that's where I'm trying to meet new people and find friends who have young children who understand the reasons we can't go out to dinner at 9 o'clock all weekend. People who understand the importance of keeping your kid on a schedule and how you're life now revolves around your kid and not so much your social life.
Anywhoo...like I said I really enjoyed the article and perhaps you will too.
Have a great one!
This morning I was catching up on the blogs I subscribe to and came across a posting from lifehack.org called: How to Break-Up With a Friend normally I read the titles at lifehack.org and know i want to go back and read them so i mark them as unread and star them to go back. Well the flow chart graphic they used really caught my interest and got me to read the whole article.
It was a pretty good article. I didn't really have any friends to break up with but what really spoke to me today was the answer to this sentence: "If you are someone who has realized that maybe you haven’t been the
best friend you should be, it’s never too late to make amends."
Well I'm not sure that I've alienated anyone yet but I do know that I do want to be come a better friend. The 3 points shared were:
Communication
I think I have definitely improved in this category. I more often initiate communication with my friends. I'm trying to move further away from mass email updates as my only communication and more personal emails, phone calls, and actual snail mail. I still need to improve my follow up with activity the next point
Activity
I am definitely aware that I need to work on this area. I've just now gotten to the point where going out with ds to the store or to play is possible. Before having to have all the milk and bottles, diapers clothes, etc. etc. etc. Was just too much so I'd wait until dh or my mom could come long with me. I'm also seeing more and more the importance of Mommy time. I'm looking forward to scheduling this in and I'll use this time to bond more with my friends.
Support
This point was interesting to think about. I've come to find that I don't have any close friends where I rely on them and they rely on me. I have my husband and family but beyond that there isn't anyone else. I recognize this as something I will have to be aware of once I get more friends.
Which leads me to one of my hearts desires for along time has been to get a close friend. I would say that I used to have close friends most in high school. Once I was engaged and eventually married alot of my single friends kind of drifted away because there was a level of disconnect we still had couple friends but soon after we had our baby we've drifted away from our couple friends too. You know how it goes your lifestyle changes and you look to relate to your friends who are in the same situation. Right now I don't have anyone close who has kids that used to be my friend. So that's where I'm trying to meet new people and find friends who have young children who understand the reasons we can't go out to dinner at 9 o'clock all weekend. People who understand the importance of keeping your kid on a schedule and how you're life now revolves around your kid and not so much your social life.
Anywhoo...like I said I really enjoyed the article and perhaps you will too.
Have a great one!
